Tuesday, July 03, 2007

In Loving Memory

Exactly one week before my birth date, and one year ago of today, back in July 3 2006, my father passed away of the age of 67.

Two weeks before his death, on a Saturday morning, I came back home from work to know that he's not feeling well. He had diabetes so he took his medication and went to sleep. Later that day I got back home only to know that my elder brother had taken my father to the hospital. I called my brother and he told me father is in I.C.U. and will remain there under observation until they find out what is wrong with him.

For three days in I.C.U. my father was unconscious but slowly recovering from whatever he had. On the fourth day he woke up and was transfered to stomach ward (Gastroenterology?) and on the fifth day he was feeling much better. Me and my two brothers took night shifts staying with our father. He remained awake in good health for four days. That was a blessing because he woke up to see all our relatives, family friends, and colleagues who have visited him during those days.

On the fifth day of being awake, on my night shift, he told me he can't breathe well. The Dr. gave him oxygen mask and plugged in some more gadgets to notice his body status, nothing was notably wrong. All night long till morning he kept removing his mask and talking to me about almost everything, giving me advices about life, telling me to take care of my mother and sisters... I asked him to put back his oxygen mask but he insisted on taking it off and told me not to interrupt. That moment I should have known that my father is dying but I couldn't force myself to believe it, I kept thinking that he'll get through this and soon will recover.

I went back home in the morning, slept until afternoon then woke up on a phone call... my father was taken to ward 10 (also known as Death Ward) in Mubarak Hospital. Me and my brothers kept on taking night shifts to stay with him although he was unconscious and plugged all over with pipes and gadgets. He remained like that until the day he passed away.

My father went into the hospital walking on foot and we took him out a dead body. The secondary cause of death was liver and kidneys failure which lead to the primary cause of death, heart failure. Still, how it all started? No one knows, not even the doctors. It was his day to leave and, hopefully not soon, we'll be leaving this world too.

Father of five, a grandfather of five. Business Administration graduate. 32 years in KUNIV till he became a manager, then another 2 years as a manager in AOU. Too old in age but very young in soul, very joyful, always smiling, always caring for those around him and rarely to be seen angry. A father everyone would love to have.

Allah yer7mah o yer7am el kel.

31 comments:

EniGma said...

allah yer7umah...

uTMoST said...

Bs Eldenya tamshe sa7?
7amdilllah 3ala kil 7al and whenever Et7es ena its too hard to go On Ed3e" Allahoma ajerne fi mossebate o akhlfne khairan menha"

Allahh yer7mah o Yaghferalahh ...

oo Allah ye6ra7 fekum lebrka :)

ge0 said...

Allah Yir7umah

snookie said...

Allah yer7omah o yaghferla

Anonymous said...

allh yr7ema .... this post has touched my heart i feel like i knew your father.

KJ said...

*hug*

Kinan said...

El 3omer elak mate!

I am sure his memory will keep him around for so long, as long as he lives in you and his loving family.

Hamza said...

Allah yer7amo

Sob7an Allah in the way a person feels he is going to die. At least he got to say goodbye to all your friends relatives and you had a last talk with him about life etc.

Many people are not fortunate to have this talk.

Allah yer7amo again.

elijah said...

*goose bumps all over my body*

Allah yir7amoh, it was nice that he had a chance to say goodbye.

ReKoO said...

allah yer7amah oo y'3amed ro7a eljanah inshallah!

Jacqui said...

Alla yer7emah :s

The Dagger said...

My friend, I totally understand how you feel. I lost my mother last year too. She was 70+ years old, but was aware of everything around her. I left Kuwait almost 20 years ago, but kept visiting whenever I got a chance. In 2005, I returned to Kuwait for a visit, and my mother was so happy that all her children were around her. She wanted me to come back and stay with the rest of the family, but I told her that I already established my self else where and can't go back to the old days of Kuwait. I promised to visit her next year. She passed away in May of 2006 a few days before I could see her again. Allah Yerham all of our loved ones, and all of the good people around us. And my friend, Atham Allah Ajrak

Fayoora said...

Allah yer7emah

Intlxpatr said...

Your father would be so proud to know his son wrote such a loving blog entry.

Navy Girl said...

i know its hard .. but this is life ..

alla yr7mha insha'lla ..

Laialy_q8 said...

Allah Yar7imah Inshalla

Anonymous said...

yr father had a Mrsa virus from the hospital. it happen to my father too. I wish they make a study to all the man who died at ward after very good recovery. check his file and you find = MRSA, they had it in intensive care too. The muslum people will said it is his day. but the virus is in Amiri hospital too, attack 65 old and above!!!!

TOUCHE' said...

May his soul rest in piece with the great grace of God.

Those few moments are priceless with the abstract essence on life, having the chance to spend the last moments with him are God's gift to you, so embrace them and cherish them as long as there is a breathe in your chest.
Being able to know what he thought of you, how proud he is of you and to know that you've managed to live to his expectations is the absolute compensation.

May he live forever in your hearts as his memories wander through the years.

amu said...

Allah yer7umah, man I feel so sad, my aunty passed away last year with the samething and while reading your post all of a sudden the whole scene came in my eyes again :(

Zed said...

Allah yer7amo

i'm sure he's in a better place right now.

Ms Loala said...

Allah yer7ama inshalla.
Time passes real quick.

G-Funk said...

Allah yer7mah o yer7am el jemee3, Stay strong brother . We all leaving this world one day. some how .

iNoor said...

Ooh *hugs*

I'm so sorry to hear this, Allah y7rma bra7mta and hopefully he's in a better place now.

Anonymous said...

Ghafarallahu lahu. May Allah grant him Firdaus.

The Criticizer said...

Thank you all. I really appreciate your comments.

il3ameed said...

allah yer7umah bra7metah ya rab oo yer7am il jamee3 inshallah.

The Criticizer said...

Thank you bro, I really appreciate your comment.

NoNoWa said...

May he rest in peace enshallah..I am so sorry for ur loss.

He sounds like a wonderful father- one every child wud lov to have ....

Dynamic Deeds said...

I'm so sorry for your loss!

Such a painful and a shocking experience!


Allah Yer7mah and always ad3ooleh because it does reach him eb2then Allah!

Maze said...

I'm sorry to hear this...it really touched my heart...Allah yer7ama...same here man..my bro died on july7,1995.I know how it feels..life goes on bro!

The Criticizer said...

Thank you guys.

Maze, sorry for your loss.